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<h2 class="wp-block-heading"><strong>Rest By Alex Soojung-Kim Pang</strong></h2>



<p><strong>Rating</strong>: 10/10</p>



<p><a href="https://amzn.to/32B74bD">Buy Book On Amazon</a></p>



<p><a href="https://think-boundless.com/alex-pang/">Podcast Episode</a></p>
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<h2 class="wp-block-heading"><strong>My Short Summary</strong></h2>



<p>Alex Pang makes sense of the idea of &#8220;rest&#8221; through his own journey taking a sabbatical after leaving Academia and the corporate world.  What he discovers is that we have lost connection with an ancient idea and broader conception of <em>Leisure</em> as one of a mix of contemplation and action.  He explores how our modern work beliefs have crowded out rest &#8211; both the active kind (like exercise) and passive kind (contemplation) &#8211; in favor of the 40+ hour work week and being &#8220;productive.&#8221;  An antidote to our empty work beliefs.  Recommend.</p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading"><strong>Key Themes &amp; Quotes</strong></h2>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading"><strong>When our identity as a person becomes too wrapped up in being a worker we become lost</strong></h3>



<p>How taking an identity as a &#8220;worker&#8221; undermines your existence</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p> If your work is your self, when you cease to work, you cease to exist. </p></blockquote>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading"><strong>The business world has been overtaken by a cult of &#8220;busyness&#8221; where we have lost the connection between &#8220;hard work&#8221; and &#8220;good work.&#8221;  Americans are uniquely obsessed with work and have some of the worst problems with overwork in the world, dating back hundreds of years.</strong></h3>



<p>William James diagnosis on Americans</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>Consider William James’s diagnosis of overwork in his 1899 essay “Gospel of Relaxation.” He argued that Americans had become accustomed to overwork, to living with an “inner panting and expectancy” and bringing “breathlessness and tension” to work.<br>&#8230;<br>In 1899 William James noted that that many Americans had gotten “into a wretched trick” of overwork and overextension, which increased “the frequency and severity of our breakdowns.” An anonymous writer in Singapore’s Straits Times observed in 1913, “The tendency of the present age is to mental overwork and the exhaustion of the brain force.” Two years later, Bertie Charles Forbes noted that the modern industrialist “works harder than any of his workmen,” and the banker “gets early to his office and performs more work—and brainier work—than any other three men in his nerve-wrecking profession.” Such men had made America the envy of the world, he said, but they were “committing suicide by overwork.” </p></blockquote>



<p>And the modern cult of busyness and &#8220;performing busyness&#8221;:</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>As a result, service workers and professionals are rewarded not just for performing work but also for “performing” busyness at work.</p></blockquote>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>Today’s workplace respects overwork, even though it’s counterproductive, and treats four-hour days as “contemptibly slack,” even though they produce superior results.</p></blockquote>



<p>On how companies are manipulating people based on our broken ideas of leisure to get people to stay in the office:</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>As sociologist William Davies argues, today’s workers are told that passion is their greatest asset and that they should do what they love (or at least love what they do); employers, meanwhile, have come to see happiness as a strategic resource that boosts employee productivity, decreases absenteeism and turnover, and increases customer satisfaction. In a few very privileged companies, where competition for talent is ferocious, this translates into free food, entertainment, on-site dry-cleaning, and other perks; elsewhere, it’s deployed as a kind of weaponized positive psychology, in which automated systems watch for signs of discontent, negative voice tone during customer phone calls, and indicators that happiness is at suboptimal levels. In environments like these, the ability to detach from a workplace that wants to commoditize your emotional life, and to cultivate a private life rather than succumb to easy alternatives that keep you in the office, is more valuable than ever.</p></blockquote>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading"><strong>Leisure once had a deeper meaning &#8211; it used to be an active engagement with life through contemplation or engagement in things that brought you alive.  Our modern conception of it is as a passive pursuit and often merely in the aim of &#8220;recharging&#8221; for work.</strong></h3>



<p>The Roman and Greek conceptions of leisure and rest:</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>Of course, I can’t claim any special insight here. The ancient Greeks saw rest as a great gift, as the pinnacle of civilized life. The Roman Stoics argued that you cannot have a good life without good work. Indeed, virtually every ancient society, recognized that both work and rest were necessary for a good life: one provided the means to live, the other gave meaning to life. Today, we’ve lost touch with that wisdom, and our lives are poorer and less fulfilling as a result. It’s time we rediscovered the good that rest can do.</p></blockquote>



<p>Referencing Josef Pieper and his discussion of work in Germany after World War II, he references Piepers idea of leisure that seemed to be lsot in the culture</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>Pieper described as not just a “result of spare time” but “an attitude of non-activity, of inward calm.&#8221;</p></blockquote>



<p>This idea of leisure &#8211; one of &#8220;inward calm&#8221; was slowly eroded and then looked at skeptically and ow dramatic this shifted our culture:</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p> Anything created through contemplation (or religious revelation, or intuition) was, by definition, less impressive and trustworthy.<br>&#8230;<br>These philosophical arguments might seem arcane, but the assumptions that knowledge is produced rather than discovered or revealed, that the amount of work that goes into an idea determines its importance, and that the creation of ideas can be organized and institutionalized, all guide our thinking about work today. When we treat workaholics as heroes, we express a belief that labor rather than contemplation is the wellspring of great ideas and that the success of individuals and companies is a measure of their long hours. </p></blockquote>



<p>Pieper shares the idea of the ratio and the intellectus, which is that ideas can be formulated through work (ratio) or intellectus (spiritual means):</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>Devoting yourself only to the first (to ratio, in other words) and neglecting the second (intellectus) might make you more productive in the short run but will make your work less profound in the long run.</p></blockquote>



<p>Another example from history, he cites Sun Tzu</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>Chinese general Sun Tzu wrote in The Art of War, “It is the unemotional, reserved, calm, detached warrior who wins, not the hothead seeking vengeance and not the ambitious seeker of fortune.” In The Book of Five Rings, written around 1645, Japanese swordsman Miyamoto Musashi advised, “Both in fighting and in everyday life you should be determined though calm.” </p></blockquote>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading"><strong>Breaks can be vitally important, but a vacation within the context of full-time work probably will only give you 3-4 weeks of relief</strong></h3>



<p>At this rate you&#8217;d need to take a week vacation every month to really &#8220;recharge&#8221;</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>Psychologists have since discovered that a similar effect holds for even relaxing vacations: the benefits don’t last very long. When they measure mood, energy levels, engagement, and happiness levels among workers before and immediately after a vacation, then weeks or months later, psychologists find that the emotional boost that a vacation provides lasts about three or four weeks. After that, your happiness and job satisfaction levels return to their prevacation levels: it’s “lots of fun, quickly gone,” as one article puts it. (And for perfectionists and workaholics, the fade-out effects happen even faster.)</p></blockquote>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading"><strong>Looking back in history, you find many prolific creators did not work as the people we glorify today.  There is a consistent convergence around 4-hours of deep work.  Our modern work culture has lost connection to good work because we orient around a 40-hour work week instead of looking at the worth of the output.</strong></h3>



<p>Here is how Darwin spent his day&#8221;</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>After his morning walk and breakfast, Darwin was in his study by eight and worked a steady hour and a half. <br><br>At nine thirty he would read the morning mail and write letters. Downe was far away enough from London to discourage casual visitors, yet close enough to allow the morning mail to reach correspondents and colleagues in the city in just a few hours. <br><br>At ten thirty, Darwin returned to more serious work, sometimes moving to his aviary, greenhouse, or one of several other buildings where he conducted his experiments. <br><br>By noon, he would declare, “I’ve done a good day’s work,” and set out on a long walk on the Sandwalk, a path he had laid out not long after buying Down House. (Part of the Sandwalk ran through land leased to Darwin by the Lubbock family.) When he returned after an hour or more, Darwin had lunch and answered more letters. <br><br>At three he would retire for a nap; an hour later he would arise, take another walk around the Sandwalk, then return to his study until five thirty, when he would join his wife, Emma, and their family for dinner. On this schedule he wrote nineteen books, including technical volumes on climbing plants, barnacles, and other subjects; the controversial Descent of Man; and The Origin of Species, probably the single most famous book in the history of science, and a book that still affects the way we think about nature and ourselves. <br><br>Anyone who reviews his schedule cannot help but notice the creator’s paradox.</p></blockquote>



<p>Henri Poincaré</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>Toulouse noted that Poincaré kept very regular hours. He did his hardest thinking between 10 a.m. and noon, and again between five and seven in the afternoon. The nineteenth century’s most towering mathematical genius worked just enough to get his mind around a problem—about four hours a day.</p></blockquote>



<p>A study of scientists in the 1950s:</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>A survey of scientists’ working lives conducted in the early 1950s yielded results in a similar range. Illinois Institute of Technology psychology professors Raymond Van Zelst and Willard Kerr surveyed their colleagues about their work habits and schedules, then graphed the number of hours faculty spent in the office against the number of articles they produced. You might expect that the result would be a straight line showing that the more hours scientists worked, the more articles they published. But it wasn’t. <br>&#8230;<br>The data revealed an M-shaped curve. The curve rose steeply at first and peaked at between ten to twenty hours per week. The curve then turned downward. Scientists who spent twenty-five hours in the workplace were no more productive than those who spent five. Scientists working thirty-five hours a week were half as productive as their twenty-hours-a-week colleagues.</p></blockquote>



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<h3 class="wp-block-heading"><strong>Companies and people find tremendous value in taking extended leave &#8211; sabbaticals &#8211; and they are probably underutilized in modern society &#8211; both for individuals and within companies</strong></h3>



<p>He is a big fan of sabbaticals, having discovered the idea for his first book during his own sabbatical.  Here is an example from Korea he mentions:</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>Organizations can also benefit from sabbaticals, as the experience of Samsung Electronics shows. In 1990, when it was still struggling to expand outside Korea, Samsung started an overseas sabbatical program for its most promising executives. Every year, two hundred people attended a three-month boot camp heavy on language immersion, meditation, and education in local customs; they then headed off for six months to one of eighty countries, where they learned the local culture, made friends, and essentially played amateur anthropologist; they then spent another six months working on a business-related project of their own design. Within a decade, the experiences of these graduates were contributing to Samsung’s dizzying rise as a global brand. Today, graduates of the sabbatical program are among the company’s most senior executives, both in Seoul and around the world.</p></blockquote>



<p>He cites the example of Stefan Sagmeister who gave a TED talk about he takes a year off from work <a href="https://www.ted.com/talks/stefan_sagmeister_the_power_of_time_off?language=en">every seven years</a>.</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>“EVERYONE WHOSE JOB description includes ‘thinking’ or coming up with ideas will benefit from” taking a sabbatical, Stefan Sagmeister says. His</p></blockquote>
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<p>Hannah Wei has been living as a digital nomad for the last four years traveling across the US, Canada and Southeast Asia. &nbsp;When she is not working as a product consultant, she trains in Muay Thai, photographs people, and collaborates on local initiatives. </p>



<p>Her transition to a nomad life might have been a bit more natural than for overs after growing up all over the world. &nbsp;She was born in China, ended up moving to was somewhat familiar after being born in China and living across the world &#8211; attending nine different schools before entering high school. &nbsp;</p>



<p>She ended up attending University in Canada but left early and built her first company when she was 21. &nbsp;She ended up dealing with burnout and after several years in Toronto, she decided to sell her stuff and head out on a nomadic adventure. &nbsp;Four years later, she is still on that adventure and still trying to make sense of how to balance success, creativity and community as she travels the globe. </p>



<p>In our conversation we touch on many things, including:</p>



<ul><li>Her upbringing in China and move to the US</li><li>Her creative inspirations as a child and how that evolved as she got older</li><li>Her experiment to code a bot to swipe on Tinder and tell people’s stories</li><li>What she has learned from Muay Thai</li><li>Her decision to compete in a professional Muay Thai fight in Thailand</li><li>What Muay Thai that has taught her about burnout, performance and success</li><li>How she defines success as a nomad depending on the region she is in</li></ul>



<p><strong>Follow Hannah</strong></p>



<ul><li><a href="https://www.herlifeinpixels.photo/">Hannah’s Website</a></li><li>Hannah on Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/herlifeinpixels">@herlifeinpixels</a></li><li><a href="https://www.notion.so/Personal-Year-End-Review-2018-d46a2a9bfd2848dfac1a2d29a6bf560b">Her personal review Notion group</a></li><li><a href="https://medium.com/@herlifeinpixels/how-to-pack-up-your-life-in-8-steps-5450aa7b93fd">How to pack up your life in eight steps</a></li><li><a href="https://hackernoon.com/swipe-right-to-let-me-take-your-profile-photo-5291b7268da2?source=---------2------------------">Tinder Photography Bot Experiment</a></li></ul>
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<p>In “<a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/religion-workism-making-americans-miserable/583441/"><g class="gr_ gr_4 gr-alert gr_spell gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim ContextualSpelling ins-del multiReplace" id="4" data-gr-id="4">Workism</g> Is Making Americans Miserable</a>,” Derek Thompson has correctly identified some of the fundamental problems and symptoms of the modern state of work in America (and increasingly many global cities).</p>



<p>However, in this article, Thompson still seems stuck in a systemic view of work and the symptoms of that system.  By doing this, he fails to address the fundamental question of how to build a life around work. Perhaps his inability to get there comes from his own internal struggle:</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>This is the right time for a confession. I am the very thing that I am criticizing.</p></blockquote>



<p>As someone who has spent the last two years of my life trying to solve this seemingly impossible puzzle and writing about it through the eyes of others, I know there are many ways to “hack a living” as the practical philosopher Andrew Taggart would put it. &nbsp;Taggart has written one of the most powerful assessments of this crisis in his book “<a href="https://andrewjtaggart.com/teachings/ebooks/">The Good Life and Sustaining Life: An Inquiry Into Our Great Vexation</a>” where I believe he correctly frames the challenge:</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p><em>There may be no greater vexation in our time than the question of how to make a living in a manner that accords with leading a good life.</em></p></blockquote>



<p>As he identifies in his inquiry, “One cannot deny that the question of the good life must come before that of sustaining life.” </p>



<p><strong>This is Aristotle’s good life, not the Kardashian good life. &nbsp;</strong></p>



<p>If we look at Thompson’s essay through this lens we start to see the problem. Many of the workers he details have the Kardashian good <g class="gr_ gr_11 gr-alert gr_gramm gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim Punctuation only-del replaceWithoutSep" id="11" data-gr-id="11">life,</g> or at least the modern professional equivalent. They have solved many of the problems of sustaining life and but lack their own deeper definition of the Aristotelian good life. &nbsp;It is choosing pour over coffee and luxurious vacations rather than the ability to do whatever you want on a Tuesday.</p>



<p>Anne Helen Peters actually gets closer to a possible question towards the end of her “<a href="https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/annehelenpetersen/millennials-burnout-generation-debt-work">Millennial Burnout</a>” essay, which Thompson references, but never takes us any further.</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p><em>It’s a way of thinking about life, and what joy and meaning we can derive not just from optimizing it, but living it. Which is another way of saying: It’s life’s actual work.</em></p></blockquote>



<p>Thompson and Petersen’s articles were shared like crazy, but they never offered any ideas about what to do next. &nbsp;</p>



<p>Our social media environment incentivizes this.  It&#8217;s much safer to share something that shows vulnerability and gets a &#8220;me too!&#8221; reaction than something that might challenge the status quo.  </p>



<p>I&#8217;ve read articles slamming co-living communities for being utopian, privileged, escapist and out of touch paradises.  So last year when I went to visit one of these communities, I was shocked to find people from all over the world who were craving (and achieving) a deeper connection to others and aspiring to build a life-less centered around work.</p>



<p>This attitude of &#8220;well what the hell can we do?&#8221; most powerfully came through in a recent New York Times “work sucks” piece appropriately titled “<em>America’s Professional Elite: Wealthy, Successful and Miserable</em>” which shares stories of people making gobs of money, but left utterly miserable. Even people who see a potential short-term solution seem utterly&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instapaper.com/read/1164903380">unwilling to do anything about it</a>:</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>“I feel like I’m wasting my life,” he told me. “When I die, is anyone going to care that I earned an extra percentage point of return? My work feels totally meaningless.” He recognized the incredible privilege of his pay and status, but his anguish seemed genuine. “If you spend 12 hours a day doing work you hate, at some point it doesn’t matter what your paycheck says,” he told me. There’s no magic salary at which a bad job becomes good. He had received an offer at a start-up, and he would have loved to take it, but it paid half as much, and he felt locked into a lifestyle that made this pay cut impossible. “My wife laughed when I told her about it,” he said.</p></blockquote>



<p>Symptoms and stories but no deeper questions.</p>



<p>Based on the number of people that forwarded me these articles, they are still worthwhile. &nbsp;They are hitting a nerve. The pain is real and people are not sure what to do.</p>



<p>However, they are missing the countless people across the world (and from all countries) who are reinventing their lives and living in new ways.  I’d love to see more articles exploring and highlighting two things:</p>



<ol><li>Stories of the countless people who are experimenting with new ways of living</li><li>What it takes to actually transform and reinvent yourself throughout different life stages</li></ol>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading"><strong>What can we learn from people that have carved their own paths?</strong></h2>



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<p>Over the past two years, I’ve highlighted the stories of many unconventional humans:  </p>



<ul><li><a href="https://think-boundless.com/boundless-podcast-jen-morilla-on-breaking-plates-grief-and-traveling-the-world-with-purpose/">Jen Morilla</a>&nbsp;traveled the world until she figured out a new career for herself; &nbsp;</li><li><a href="https://think-boundless.com/screw-the-cubicle-lydia-lee/">Lydia Lee</a>&nbsp;relocating to Bali to live a more balanced life;</li><li><a href="https://think-boundless.com/jacqueline-jensen/">Jacqueline Jensen</a>&nbsp;took a sabbatical to figure out if work should, in fact, be the center of her life;</li><li><a href="https://think-boundless.com/candace-cabrera-moore-fearless-yoga-entrepreneur-on-global-building-a-business-brand-community-episode-20/">Candace Moore</a>&nbsp;accidentally building a business by generously making yoga YouTube videos to help people across the globe;</li><li><a href="https://think-boundless.com/chris-donohoe-uncommonly-one-year/">Chris Donohoe</a>&nbsp;built his own consulting firm around a 40-day <g class="gr_ gr_11 gr-alert gr_spell gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim ContextualSpelling ins-del" id="11" data-gr-id="11">workweek</g> and bringing his full self to the world every day;</li><li><a href="https://think-boundless.com/andrew-taggart/">Andrew Taggart</a>&nbsp;helping entrepreneurs with the “good life question” and operating in the gift economy;</li><li><a href="https://think-boundless.com/laura-gallaher/">Laura Gallaher</a> joining Remote Year with her co-worker and employee to shift her business from an in-person one to a digital one</li><li><a href="https://think-boundless.com/ervin-ling-travel-world-taiwan/">Ervin Ling</a>&nbsp;quitting his job at 30 to work 15 hours a week as an English teacher;</li><li><a href="https://think-boundless.com/bryan-victor-unconventional-singaporean/">Bryan Victor</a> skipped the traditional path of the university in Singapore to learn through life experiments.  </li><li><a href="https://radreads.co/start-here/">Khe Hy</a> leaving Wall Street to be a <g class="gr_ gr_46 gr-alert gr_spell gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim ContextualSpelling ins-del multiReplace" id="46" data-gr-id="46">sensemaker</g> for the miserable elite</li><li><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2018/04/27/well/the-year-i-learned-to-quit.html">Christine Bader</a> &#8220;learning to quit&#8221; rather than missing out on seeing her children grow up because of work </li></ul>



<p>Experimentation is not limited to personal transformation either. &nbsp;<a href="http://p/">Wade Foster</a>&nbsp;finds that defaulting to a remote team at Zapier has helped his team live better lives. &nbsp;<a href="https://think-boundless.com/natasha-walker-4-day-workweek/">Tash Walker</a>&nbsp;thought “flextime” was BS and implemented a real 4-day <g class="gr_ gr_5 gr-alert gr_spell gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim ContextualSpelling ins-del" id="5" data-gr-id="5">workweek</g> for her firm in London without compromising profits. <a href="https://think-boundless.com/tyler-tringas-earnest-capital/">Tyler Tringas</a> investing in founders who want to build &#8220;calm companies.&#8221;</p>



<p>At the center of these stories is an uncomfortable truth. &nbsp;<strong>One has to leave the traditional full-time paradigm to build a more reasonable life that makes sense. </strong>&nbsp;</p>



<p>It&#8217;s just hard to dodge the judgment and guilt that comes from “stepping back” in the traditional full-time work context. This is why so many of these people I’ve talked to have left and carved their own paths. </p>



<p><em>If you&#8217;re willing to compromise on traditional metrics of success in the short term, you mine as well do it on your own terms.</em></p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading"><strong>How Does Change Actually Happen?</strong></h2>



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<p>Stories of reinvention are great, but they are not sufficient.  Most people can find enough difference with another person to explain away that person&#8217;s success.  &#8220;Oh they could do that because they worked at X&#8221; or &#8220;sure they probably had a ton of savings.&#8221;  The reason people do this is not <g class="gr_ gr_13 gr-alert gr_gramm gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim Grammar multiReplace" id="13" data-gr-id="13">because they</g> don&#8217;t think they are capable, but because change is not fun and its quite hard.  I think this is why it is important to demystify the process a bit.  Here are three &#8220;steps&#8221; I have seen in many people&#8217;s journeys:<br></p>



<p><strong>STEP 1 &#8211; A Crisis?</strong>: For many, there is a crisis or major life event. &nbsp;This can be a health issue, a loss of a loved one, a job loss or even a positive event like getting married, having a baby or moving to a new city.  </p>



<p>For me, dealing with a <a href="https://think-boundless.com/conquering-chronic-illness-learning-how-to-live/">health crisis in my late twenties</a> and taking several months leave from work forced me to come face to face the fact that I was too deeply tied to my identity as a &#8220;successful&#8221; worker.</p>



<p>Yet these crises rarely lead directly to a dramatic leap despite our belief in that narrative.  A crisis often shatters our beliefs and then gradually as we start to pick up the pieces, the possibility of change appears as a result of profound conversations, books or other life events that linger in the brain until the person is ready to start taking action.</p>



<p>For Lydia Lee, she found herself literally and figuratively burned out in a Russian hotel room, but did not start to imagine a different way of life until she had a profound <a href="https://think-boundless.com/screw-the-cubicle-lydia-lee/">conversation on a boat</a> visiting her home country of Malaysia with a German who was running a business remotely.&nbsp; This piqued her interest and planted the seeds for her to start to think about her work and life in a new way.&nbsp; When she returned to Canada, she re-visited Tim Ferriss’ 4-Hour Work Week with new eyes and started to apply some of the lessons to how she might work with more freedom. </p>



<p><strong>STEP 2 &#8211; Friends</strong>: The next thing that seems to matter is that you need at least one or two friends that will support the new way of being. &nbsp;This appears to help people get &#8220;permission&#8221; to move forward and have someone to confide in when they are uncomfortable or find themselves a bit lost.  These people are typically friends or family that have lived life in an “unusual” way and see some value in experimenting or compromising on short term success. </p>



<p>Candace Moore, who now is an author and yoga entrepreneur, she has support and inspiration from <a href="https://www.yogabycandace.com/podcast/2018/8/20/season-2-episode-12-tips-for-successful-self-employment" rel="noreferrer noopener" target="_blank">her mother</a>, who was always a natural entrepreneur starting businesses in her home and adapting to her circumstances.  <a href="https://think-boundless.com/tony-triumph-on-growing-up-entrepreneurial-moving-to-nyc-with-300-and-building-incredible-relationships/" rel="noreferrer noopener" target="_blank">Tony Triumph</a> didn&#8217;t realize his family was any different until later in life, but reflected that he grew up around people that were always working in different ways to make a living.<br></p>



<p>One thing I have my coaching clients do is find someone online they can have a &#8220;path perspective&#8221; conversation with.  Whatever you feel pulled towards, there is probably doing something like that already.  I have them send a short note asking for advice and see if they&#8217;d be willing to offer 15-30 minutes of their time to share insights on what to avoid, what to think about and how to be prepared.  People are often surprised at how willing people are to help others that want to follow in their footsteps.</p>



<p><strong>STEP 3 &#8211; ASPIRE</strong>: Finally, the person needs to have a long-term vision of who they want to become.</p>



<p>People often arrive at this point after first questioning something they have taken for granted, like how they think about &#8220;success&#8221; and have it be a gateway to a deeper contemplation of who they really might want to be.</p>



<p>Then it comes down to actually shifting energy towards those new possibilities.  As much as life hacks and &#8220;how-to&#8221; guides would want us to believe that change is a straight line and can be planned, the philosopher Agnes Callard gives us a <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Aspiration-Agency-Becoming-Agnes-Callard/dp/0190639482">different model</a>.  She believes that when we aspire to be a different person, we often have a hard time explaining our motives.</p>



<p>This is often the case in people I talk to.  They may not have a clear vision of a future self, but they are open to experimenting in new ways.  Callard might say that these people have a vague sense of &#8220;something better&#8221; in the future but <g class="gr_ gr_290 gr-alert gr_gramm gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim Grammar multiReplace" id="290" data-gr-id="290">have</g> trouble <a href="https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2019/01/21/the-art-of-decision-making">articulating it</a>.  Instead, transformation is a process of &#8220;trying on values&#8221;</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>we “aspire” to self-transformation by trying on the values that we hope one day to possess</p></blockquote>



<p>This is also why from the outside it is so hard to differentiate the money-driven entrepreneur from the self-employed person trying to hack <g class="gr_ gr_225 gr-alert gr_gramm gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim Grammar only-del replaceWithoutSep" id="225" data-gr-id="225">a life</g>.  The people I know who are most fulfilled carving a different path are also the ones that have no idea how to explain what they are doing to anyone.</p>



<p>But deep down, they have a pull towards a journey or a life that tells they, &#8220;yes this is the right way.&#8221;</p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading"><strong>The &#8220;Work Sucks&#8221; Perspective Is Still Valuable</strong></h2>



<p>A close friend e-mailed me Thompson&#8217;s article and <g class="gr_ gr_7 gr-alert gr_gramm gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim Punctuation only-ins replaceWithoutSep" id="7" data-gr-id="7">said</g> &#8220;this is me.&#8221;  He probably sent it to me because we&#8217;ve talked countless times over the past few years about this <g class="gr_ gr_6 gr-alert gr_gramm gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim Grammar multiReplace" id="6" data-gr-id="6">persons</g> predicament.  We <g class="gr_ gr_5 gr-alert gr_spell gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim ContextualSpelling ins-del multiReplace" id="5" data-gr-id="5">walso</g> talked about his unwillingness to do anything about it.</p>



<p>Thompson has added tremendous depth to the discussion around work.  He has been ahead of the curve in questioning why we are working so much despite becoming so much more productive in his amazing essay <em><a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2015/07/world-without-work/395294/">A World Without Work</a>.&nbsp;</em></p>



<p>However, I’d love to see the Atlantic, Buzzfeed, New York Times and others do a better job of highlighting the stories of amazing people globally already starting the hard work of reinventing themselves and looking beyond the traditional path that works remarkably well for some, but leaves many hoping for a deeper connection to life.</p>



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<p>I’ve left jobs before but this time felt different. I felt broken. Deflated. Unable to even think past the next few days.</p>



<p>When it hit me, I had been giving career advice and coaching to friends and clients for over 10 years. My superpower is helping people understand what they were good at and telling a story that enables them to move towards something where they find more joy and satisfaction. People looked at me as someone that “had it figured out” and wouldn&#8217;t be in this position.</p>



<p>I did have a lot of things figured out.&nbsp; I knew what I was good at. I knew what drove me. I had a good sense for the things that were non-negotiable and the annoying work-related things that I could deal with. I always knew I could get another job and had managed&nbsp;my life in a way that I never depended on needing to make a lot of money.</p>



<p>None of my preparations mattered.&nbsp; No one is immune from the feeling that overtook me in my final day of full-time employment.</p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading">Burnout: slowly and then all at once</h2>



<p>It should have been a day of joy.&nbsp; I was kick-starting the next chapter in my journey.&nbsp; Externally, I was putting on a good front.&nbsp; I was telling people how pumped I was for the future and telling people about my freelance and self-employment plans.&nbsp; Because you know, people love plans.</p>



<p>I saw it coming. I knew early on that there wasn’t a strong values alignment between what I cared about, what my company cared about and what my managers cared about. I’d even studied and <a href="https://think-boundless.com/future-of-work-mindset-shift-your-thinking-to-do-work-that-matters/">wrote about</a> the research on motivation that says you need this alignment to achieve big goals, stay motivated and succeed.</p>



<p>Still, I stayed and I stayed too long.&nbsp; Part of me wanted to prove that I wasn&#8217;t a &#8220;job-hopper.&#8221;&nbsp; But even with the confidence that I could get another job, there is something pernicious about the mindset of full-time employment and how you build your life around it with 1-year leases and other financial commitments.</p>



<p>From the first day of my first internship in college, I always had a deep fear that is impossible to put into words, but I&#8217;ll try anyway.&nbsp; Picture a slightly overweight middle-aged man, who stayed in a job too long looking at his desk amid an existential crisis.&nbsp; He had told himself, &#8220;one more year&#8221; so many times and in the process, a slow creepy disatisfaction built as he simeltaneously increased spending to quell that pain.&nbsp; He is numb and absolutely lost.</p>



<p>I wanted to avoid that at all costs.</p>



<p>I left jobs before getting promoted because I knew learning would energize me more than a raise.&nbsp; I always took all my vacation days.&nbsp; I tried not to work too many hours. I put a lot of effort into working with people I would also want to be friends with outside of work.</p>



<p>Yet, it still hit me.</p>



<p>That final day of work, I walked around in a deep fog of gloom, shame, and embarrassment.</p>



<p>My body desperately calling for something else.</p>



<p>Just wanting to run away.</p>



<p><strong>Burnout</strong>.</p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading">Alienation</h2>



<p>The research on burnout shows it is similar to depression — just very focused on the workplace.&nbsp; This may be the saving grace of burnout &#8211; that it doesn&#8217;t always infect every aspect of your life.</p>



<p>When I reflect back, I see a different person.&nbsp; An optimistic person, I struggled to see the positive in things. My values were disconnected from the leaders I was working with. The National Institute of Health describes this common symptom as &#8220;Alienation from (work-related) activities&#8221;:</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p><span>People who have&nbsp;</span>burnout<span>&nbsp;find their jobs increasingly stressful and frustrating. They may start being cynical about their working conditions and their colleagues. At the same time, they may increasingly distance themselves emotionally, and start feeling numb about their work.&nbsp;</span></p></blockquote>



<p>I started blaming the people I worked with.&nbsp; If only they could change their mindset!&nbsp; If only they saw there was a better way to do things!&nbsp; It didn&#8217;t matter.&nbsp; My own negative attitude was destroying any good ideas before they even had a chance to survive. I was in a different mental state.&nbsp; The only thing that would cure me was leaving.</p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading">Is burnout an inevitable flaw of the modern workplace?</h2>



<p>Work is increasingly complex, people are working more and managers are trying to lead without a foundational understanding of the complexity they are fighting against.  Edgar Schein has highlighted these problems for decades.  His <a href="https://sloanreview.mit.edu/article/how-can-organizations-learn-faster-the-challenge-of-entering-the-green-room/">article from 1993</a> still resonates:</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p><em>&#8230;one of the most difficult problems of our age is that leaders, and perhaps academics as well, cannot readily admit that things are out of control and that we do not know what to do. <span>We have too much information, limited cognitive abilities to think in systemic terms, and an unwillingness to violate the cultural norms that leaders must always appear to be in control and to have solutions for all our problems.</span></em></p></blockquote>



<p>More than 25 years ago! Work from 1993 would probably seem pretty appealing today without 24/7 connectivity and limitless information to churn into more charts and graphs.&nbsp; I&#8217;ve written extensively about how many of these problems still persist and have outlined <a href="https://think-boundless.com/crisis-at-work-why-todays-organizations-are-failing-to-unleash-human-potential/">six core reasons people are running up against</a>.&nbsp; Still, people feel helpless.&nbsp; If there is one phrase I hear more often than others in my conversations with people it is this:</p>



<blockquote class="wp-block-quote"><p>it sucks but what can I&nbsp;do?</p></blockquote>



<p>I may not have been able to save myself, but I am fascinated by what I can do to save others from burnout.&nbsp; Or at least to help them pick up the pieces after the fact.</p>



<p>As I walked out on my final day I also felt something else — disappointment. I knew that I had held back at certain times and could have done more. I left growth and potential on the table. If I was doing pretty well and was still leaving creative potential untapped, what does this say for the rest of the workforce?&nbsp; How many millions of people are suffering the slow, marginal creep of looming burnout?</p>



<p>I hope to make a small dent in helping people avoid that fate.</p>
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